The Story of Birthmothers Who Already Have Children Guilt is the hardest emotion for most birthmothers to handle. When it’s your first child, the guilt primarily comes from the thought that I’m not ready for parenthood when I should be. But that’s not the case for women whose adoptee child is not their first child. And there are many out … Read More
Choosing Adoption Doesn’t Mean a Woman Doesn’t Love Her Baby
Choosing Adoption Doesn’t Mean a Woman Doesn’t Love Her Baby The love a mother has for her child is indescribable. You hear of stories everyday of brave, loving mothers who sacrifice everything to ensure their children’s happiness and safety. Bonds between a mother and child are sealed at birth, and no one could ever break that binding love, including the … Read More
1 Little, 2 Little, 3 Little……..#7 Adoption
1 Little, 2 Little, 3 Little……..#7 Adoption Alana, a working mother, has a full quiver of 6 children ranging from 14 to three years old. Her brood has lived in hotels, crashed on the floors and beds of generous friends, and slept many places the last two years. You see, Alana has has a string of unhealthy, short relationships, resulting … Read More
What is a Home Study? Is it Important to Me?
What is a Home Study? Is it Important to Me? If you’re getting too the point where you need to start choosing your adoptive parents, someone may have mentioned a home study. But what is that? You might wonder, “Are they going to study me at home? Is this part of the adoption process?” A home study is actually a … Read More
What is a “birth plan” in adoption?
What is a “birth plan” in adoption? Many times a birthmother is asked (once an adoption plan is in place) about her “birth plan”. What IS a birth plan? It’s a plan made by the birthmother as to what she wants to happen during labor & delivery. The first concern is to decide if you feel comfortable having the adoptive … Read More
What to Look for in an Adoptive Family
What to Look for in an Adoptive Family The biggest decision you make as a birthmother is who is right to adopt your baby. Birthmothers who have already gone through the process will tell you that they couldn’t pinpoint one reason, or make a list of their ideal traits. Sometimes, a family will just feel right with you. They may … Read More
What to Do When Adoptive Family Doesn’t Honor Open Adoption Agreement
What to Do When Adoptive Family Doesn’t Honor Open Adoption Agreement You may be new to the idea of an open adoption, as it is a relatively new practice and not always discussed by adoption agencies as an option. An open adoption refers to a birthmother-to-adoptive parent relationship where the birthmother has contact and receives information about the child after … Read More
The Memory Box: A Keepsake for Your Baby
The Memory Box: A Keepsake for Your Baby After pregnancy – the hard decisions, the tears, fears, and finally the birth – you’ll finally have some time to think about you. Probably the only thing on your mind for the past nine months has been, “What can I do for this child that’s about to be in my life?” But … Read More
Motherhood Without A Childhood
Motherhood Without A Childhood Adoption has been given a false image by the media in recent years. Not enough people tell the birthmother’s story after pregnancy. We focus on the birth, the choice, the gift of life to the child. But what happens after your baby is born, and he or she goes to live with the adoptive family? The … Read More
Receiving a “Letter to the Birthmother” from Potential Parents
Receiving a “Letter to the Birthmother” from Potential Parents During the adoption process, you have so many hurdles to cross. The ability to find the right parents, build a relationship with them, and go through all the legal processes of adoption can be quite daunting. But some things take more time than others. Reading letters from the parents should be … Read More