Adoption Counseling

Do Birthmothers Get to Pick Their Baby’s Name? The expecting mother’s bookshelf likely has at least one “baby name book,” tucked away and highlighted with her favorite names for her child-to-be. Naming is ceremonial, and a great honor for the parent because it gives their child a unique identity that represents who they hope their child will grow up to … Read More

Talking to Your Parents About Adoption The time initially following when you find out you’re pregnant, there will be three questions that immediately hit you hard: 1) What do I do next? 2) What will happen when I tell the father? And 3) What will happen when I tell my parents? The last one causes the most anxiety for young … Read More

The Day After Your Adoption After the birth, and after the new adoptive family has taken your baby home – when you’ve settled back into everyday life – you’ll have the feeling–the feeling that you’re missing something more than the life you carried for nine months. A part of your life has changed. The first day after the adoption is … Read More

Remembering the Milestones of Mother and Child When you were a child your parents celebrated every milestone growing up. They probably still have film of your first steps, keep pictures of your first birthday party, and remember exactly what happened on your first day of school. These are more than just moments in childhood. They are the ways parents create … Read More

Making the Right Decision with the Birth Father You just found out you’re pregnant. Like, today you found out you’re pregnant. You haven’t told anyone yet. But you’re dreading the reaction you might get from the first person to tell: the father. Hopefully he turns out to be a supportive friend, if not boyfriend or husband, that will help you … Read More

Are You Still a Mom After Your Baby is Placed? Birthmothers often don’t receive credit for their amazing story after the baby is placed in the adoptive home. Some moms feel confused after the delivery, because they don’t know whether to call themselves a mom anymore or not. The biological mother is technically not a “birthmom” until the delivery. Until … Read More

When Is a Birthmother a Birthmother? Most women who choose adoption after they find out they’re pregnant wonder, “Am I just a mom, or a birth mom?” It can be weird to use a term for yourself that you’ve never heard, especially when many people don’t agree whether a birthmother is a woman who has had her child, or the … Read More

Making the Courageous Choice Imagining an adoption is nearly impossible. When you first find out you’re pregnant, it’s so hard to know what you’ll do in the end. Because the media doesn’t talk about what it’s like to be a birth mom, it’s s difficult to understand that choice, let alone relate to it. Could I be a birthmother? You … Read More